Tips For Deciding Between Eloping Or A Traditional Wedding
As a wedding photographer and someone who planned my own wedding, I understand that bringing all the details of a wedding together can be an overwhelming experience. One of the largest decisions you will make when planning your wedding is whether to have a traditional celebration or an elopement. Both options have their pros and cons, and there is no one-size-fits-all blanket answer for everyone. Each couple has to decide for themselves. And it can be challenging to decide which is the right choice for your unique relationship. As a Kansas, Wichita, and traveling photographer, I have worked with couples who have chosen both options and can provide insight into the benefits of each.
Either way you choose results in a marriage! So, no matter what, it’s a win! You’re listening to a huge advocate for marriage!
Here we go…
1. Discuss Your Priorities
When deciding whether to elope or have a traditional wedding, it's essential to think about your priorities. Sit down with your fiance and discuss what is most important to you. Do you want a big celebration with family and friends, or do you prefer a more intimate setting? Do you want to prioritize spending money on a big event or investing in other aspects of your future together like your honeymoon or first house? Considering your priorities can help you make a decision that aligns with your values and goals.
2. Consider Your Budget
Weddings can be expensive, and eloping can be a more affordable option. Consider how much you are willing to spend on your wedding day and whether that budget aligns with your priorities. Traditional weddings can involve significant expenses, such as venue rental, catering, and decor. Eloping, on the other hand, can be more cost-effective, as it typically involves fewer guests and less formalities. One thing to think about also, is if you are traveling for your elopement AND are hoping to bring even a few guests, travel can add up for each guest.
3. Think About Your Guest List
If you have a large family or friend group, it can be difficult to narrow down your guest list. If you're struggling with this, eloping might be a better option for you. Alternatively, if having your loved ones present is a priority, a traditional wedding may be the way to go. Keep in mind that eloping doesn't have to mean excluding your loved ones entirely. You can still involve them in the planning process or have a small ceremony and celebrate with them later. There are no right or wrong answers here. If you want to elope but have your parents and your one uncle there go for it! It’s whatever is best for you!
4. Consider Your Personalities
Your personalities can influence whether you'd be more comfortable eloping or having a traditional wedding. Are you introverted or extroverted? Is one of you more overwhelmed by large groups? Do you like being the center of attention, or do you prefer more intimate settings? These personality traits can influence your comfort level on your wedding day, and it's important to choose an option that aligns with your preferences.
5. Evaluate Your Wedding Day Vision
Take some time to think about what you envision for your wedding day. Are there specific traditions or elements that are important to you? Would you rather have a simple ceremony or an extravagant celebration? If you have a specific vision for your wedding day, it's essential to choose the option that aligns with that vision. If you're not sure what your wedding day vision is, work with a wedding photographer or planner who can help you clarify your priorities.
6. Consider Legal Requirements
Depending on where you live, there may be legal requirements for getting married that could influence your decision. Make sure to research the legal requirements of the location in which you plan to get married before making a decision. Every state has different rules and requirements! Probably nothing to change your decision, but just be sure to look into it!
Deciding whether to elope or have a traditional wedding is a personal decision that should reflect YOUR values, preferences, and priorities. By considering the factors discussed in this post, you can make an informed decision that feels right for you and your fiance.
If you are thinking of eloping and trying to find some beautiful sceneries I would LOVE to help you choose some locations! And I would be even more honored to help you document your memories, no matter which option you choose.
See you next time!
